Real wisdom comes in knowing the influence others have on you. The influence of society, your culture, your family and friends, your associates. But it goes deeper than that. The influence of the whole of life on you. The type of air you are breathing, the type of water you are drinking, the food you eat, and the different chemicals and minerals and the rest that surround you.
But it goes deeper than that. Think of the influence that exists on your psyche from energies that you can't see or hear and may not even know about.
But it goes deeper than that. Think of all of the past influences on you from all of the various relationships I have mentioned and how they have gone to make what you are today.
You and I and all of life are, together, products of our relationships. We can't control all of these relationships and there is no denying of the powerful effects for good or ill in our lives. But we can understand that our relationships are made better by what we bring to them.
Knowing the tremendous influence of our relationships on our lives should bring us to some humility. We can never reasonably accept that we did everything on our own. Also knowing of that tremendous influence of others on our lives should bring us to some empathy, compassion, and move us away from condemnation.
We have all grown out of the soil of our relationships. If the fruit is bad, are we only to blame the fruit?